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Wednesday, 15 June 2011

Striking the balance

Been really exhausted recently, been surviving on 5- 6 hours of sleep
on average everyday. Day time is with isaac, and night time is busy
with replying business clients email, research, advertisting, updating
website etc..

due to the exhaustion and early morning waking i.e. 6 am of Isaac, has
been impatient and irritable.

Plus Isaac has begin to show his dissatisfaction and protest by
screaming on top of crying and manipulative at the same time.

Been learning and asking other mothers how to deal with is, and am
learning the "cold" treatment way by ignoring him and it definitely
works!

Having said that, Isaac has also been fussy with his food and i
shouted at him and walked away when he spit out his food. I just
shouted once and walked away to the kitchen to cool myself down.

After that Isaac came to apologise by stroking me with his little
hand.. Aw... makes me feel so bad.

After that incident, i also learnt NOT TO SHOW MY TEMPER to my son. My
friend has been encouraging by sending me this link so i can read
about we don't even hit nasty people that we deal with at work , so
why do we hit our son or raise our voice, especially they are most
precious, closest person to us on earth. Well said...

I also learnt that this will negatively impact them.

SO, I WILL NOT DO 2 THINGS:

1. show my temper/outburst to Isaac
2. Will not hit him for minor things

Another mother as me to be "generous" : generous is allowing him to
mess up my carpet, my table etc.. and do not restrict him, because
everything to him is play.

Solution is to walk away from the situation when i realised i was
about to burst, and remain silent. If the son is being clingy and is
screaming, walk away, ignore him, no eye contact until he calms down.
Soon, he will learn that by screaming he will not get the attention
that he wants.

To sum up :
1. Say it in my heart: i will not show my temper to my beloved son
2. Warn the children that you are tired and you are about to burst
3. take the opportunity to teach the children to be understanding
4. give children "Cold treatment"
5. Appropriate in showing temper
6. Change your environment., smile to your child


About striking balance, i also read this line :

"If you are a full time mum, remember your first and foremost
responsiblity is to bring up your child, do not waste the time with
him because to them it's their everything "

I have lost sight of this as i have been too busy with other things.
Thank God it's not too late, tomorrow, i can have a new beginning... i
will do it better tomorrow

1 comment:

  1. good post, i suppose i need to change some of the ways i deal with my girl too. but for someone who sleeps between 9 to 10 hours daily, 7 hours is making me tired, irritable and impatient........sigh, one day, one day, i'll be able to get my sleep back...

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