A couple of weeks ago, when we had a birthday party at our place, there were about 15 of us. Interestingly, as with most gathering, the main attraction was on the 2 year old handsome boy, Christian. He is just so adorable. His birthday was one week before Albert.Of all his pressie, he loved the Nemo bag, in bright orange. He carries it wherever he goes. It looks cute on him as the nemo bag probably covers his bag and it's a bit long. Christian is so smart. He knows all his 26 alphabets by this age and he knows all his colour. I was shocked too, to be honest. I pointed at different colours and he could name them all, orange, pink, green, purple. He can utter lots of vocab and words. All these are the hard work of his parents who kept on talking and stimulating him since young.
Few days later, i had this conversation with Albert :" What is the difference between a 2 year old boy who knows all his alphabet and those who hasn't?"
"No difference." Albert replied.
Many parents would want their kids to speak ASAP, learn their alphabets ASAP, learn their maths ASAP. I asked a number of parents for hints and tips. Who doesn't want a child who can utter words and do their maths( if possible) at the age of 2?
Then it just occured to me that it really doesn't matter. Intelligence or skills or talent doesn't define our worth. We don't put a price tag on human beings, like how we place a price tag on products. The more function a product gives, the more expensive it becomes. The more intelligent or skillful a person is, he(she) worth more and consequently deserve more love.
Subconsciously, we buy into this idea.We worshipped intelligence, talent and we want our child to grow up having some of that. Like the video i mentioned earlier, the pianist who only has 4 fingers, physical disability does not diminish one's worth. I say that because i am a christian and i am the child of God. God's words tell me that we are all beautiful and we are all the same, the object of his eternal unconditional love. You and I worth the same because God created us in His image, we are His children. We don't have to "top up" our worth by proving to the world that we are invincible or smarter than our neighbours. More so, we don't have to earn others' respect by stepping on others so we can climb higher. We learn and acquire new skills and knowledge so we can better serve our neighbours, so we can help those who are in need. Those who are literate are not meant to boast about their literacy. We just happen to live in a comfortable family, just happen to be born in a comfortable country that can offer education. What is there to boast? Because we are literate, we are meant to help those who are not. We don't despise them because we have something that they don't. They, too , may have some other strength or skills that we don't. We all need each other. If everyone becomes doctor, where do we find architect and engineers that design buildings and houses for us?
This is a reminder for myself. If my child doesn't like biology or chemistry, that's fine. He (or she) can't stand the sight of blood, and have no interest in becoming a doctor. That's fine too. No matter what he does, he is still precious in the eyes of God and mine. His worth is define by who he belongs to, rather than what he has. Sometimes, the thought of maybe, i may give birth to a disable child comes to my mind. How would i respond ? Will i blame God? Will i become bitter? Do i have the right posture before God? Will i still please God with praises and thanks giving for this gift of life, regardless of the condition of the child? Can i see this child through God's eye?
These few days,i was reminded that nothing surprises God. Whatever that befalls me, the purpose is for me to know more of God's revealed character and transform my lens, that i am able to look at the world around me from God's eyes. He wants me to know more of His love so i can love others with the love that He gives me.
I no longer need to strive to be number 1, or becomes the richest or the smartest. I am who i am.. I praise God for my strength and i rely on God to show me my weakness and rely on His strength to help me overcome. He loves me too much to want me to stay that way. The same applies to those around me. Yes, my friend was right, it doesn't matter when he had his first flip. By the end of the way, it doesn't matter. Because our skills, intelligence and talent does not define our worth. It's to whom we belong.
"Since you are precious and honoured in my sight,
and because i love you....Isaiah 43:4
"For You( God through Christ) created my inmost being
you knit me together in my mother's womb.
I praise you because i am fearfully and wonderfully made
your works are wonderful
i know that full well
My frame was not hidden from you
when i was made in the secret place
When i was woven together
in the depths of the earth,
your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be " Psalm 139
"Before i formed you in the womb i knew you
before you were born i set you apart...." Jeremiah 1:5