Wednesday, 27 December 2006

My photo Dilemma-2

Update on my photo dilemma, i have registered adter my effort of googling free hosting/ photo album eetc.. i still haven't found the ideal FREE website to host my photos.

  • Flickr (most blogger use this):

as a free member, they can only display 200 most recent photos, and there is a limit for each month

  • My photo album:

Looks good, but the ad is a bit seductive, with woman showing off their assets. I don't want to tempt my friends when they viewed my photos

  • Photobucket( competitor of flickr, lots of people from myspace use it):

 i can only upload maximum of 20 photos at one time, i would prefer one whole folder

  • Imagestation by Sony:

 it's user friendly, i can upload the whole folder from my computer ,it's my ideal actually if not because of one imperfection: the viewing screen is a bit small

  • Multiply

Very slow connection, to begin with, it has already taken ages to log myself into multiply

  • Snapfish by Jessop, Shutterfly

i was attracted to it initially because it's unlimited storage, again, the window for photo display is small with ads on the right colmun

  • Photobox

I got confused with photobucket, so i registered it and then found out that it's not user friendly

  • Fotopnet

A hong kong based photo sharing network, mainly in chinese. Got to know from a friend of mine, change. I got attracted to it because all this while i prefer a host that use black as a background, make good contrast to photos.I registred, and tried using . Oh my, it's SOO un-user friendly. For example, to arrange the photos, i can't drag the photos ao the order i wish like imagestation. I have to type in the order number, for example if it's meant to be 14, i have to click on 14. Oh my, how am i suppose to know all the order! So, ouT.

  • Pbase

Quite a popular photo sharing network, unfortunately, i have to pay, and most basic package is for 400MB storage. No good. At this stage, i am still looking for freebies

  • MYnetimage

Found out about this from my google today, i have registered it, yet to use it. Will let you know

Imagine, i have registered myself with all the above for trial !

What i googled today

A bit of context : I am a person who hsa low concentration, unless something that i am very passionate about. Following that logic, i am not a person who is passionate in my career, as you would have gathered by now. Hence, i also have some background websites running behind my actualy task in  my job.

Last saturday, on my birthday, Albert brought me to a restaurant behind Harrod, The capital, which has two Michelin star, a rating used for restaurants. Fat Duck, has three michelin star, which we have been before last year. My experience was capital was alright, not ideal. It's not bad, but for a two Michelin star, it was over rated, according to my well-trained taste bud. Both my parents are excellent cook. .My dad was in Sin Chew jit poh before for his dishes, and needless to say, my mum won some cooking competition. I never eaten mooncake from elsewhere, except my mum's and until i came to deprived land of england.

Office was quite quet today. So i googled on world best restaurant and found out that Fat Duck restaurant came first in 2005, which was the year we went. I told Albert, having been to Fat Duck Restaurant, i have no regrets if i am on my way to heaven =P

That's my love and passion for food.

2004 ranking

2005 ranking

Friday, 22 December 2006

Sense of humour

My friend, V , single man at present , once told me that he will not marry a woman whom he has to explain his jokes.

This very moment, i can empathized with him. In my previous blog, i uploaded the animated photo of the penguins. I personally find it very funny. I sent the file to my colleagues, but they don't find it funny. In fact, my colleague told me that he felt sorry for the penguin!

Oh man.. i just find that sense of humour is so personal. Of course, not to mention cultural.

Okay, maybe it's just me, who is the weirdo here.The only chinese on the whole floor in this organisation.


From the flurry of e-mails/blogs, you can tell i am happy, because i have  been learning new things these past few days.

  • Point One

Yesterday, i have finally learnt how to get rid of those horrible borders around the photos that i upload via blogger. I came upon this website accidentally.

This is how you do it:
under html code, after you have uploaded your photos, edit by adding these words in red
jpg"><img style="display:block;    to  <img style= "border:none;" "display:block etc....

Acutally i quite like website, with html learning etc... kind of regret doing pharmacy.On the optimistic point of view, if it's not for pharmacy, i wouldn't have obtained my working permit and job that easily in UK.

SO everything works out good ... Romans 8:28

  • Point Two

From my "Vikipedia", my intelligent pastor friend, V, he asked me to read about Enneagram from Wikipedia, it's used for various teaching purpose, a tool for you to understand yourself.

Based on explanation from wikipedia, i am type SEVEN-enthusiast, Under stress, express qualities of the One (reforrmer, critic, perfectionist), and when flourishing, they express qualities of the Five (Observer, thinker, investigator).

Today i googled on enneagram and found this website where you can do a sample test. Wa la i am still Seven. Perfect seven.

Type Seven
The busy, productive type. Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over-extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness. At their Best: they focus their talents on worthwhile goals, becoming appreciative, joyous, and satisfied.

free enneagram test
Today, i made sense of
A) the world around me
B) myself in relation to the world around me
These discoveries sustains my enthusiasm for living. As chinese idiom: you learn till you age, 活到老, 学到老.

It works! Yes!

It's a good day today, as how australians say it. This works!

I can blog using e-mails. HA HA HA ho ho ho

now let's test with photos

Albert is bringing me to a dinner tomorrow, but he has kept the location a secret. I wonder where is he bringing.

Yesterday, i received a birthday gift from my beloved mummy. Aw.. *tho tweet* (Tweety Bird pronunciation). I told Albert that my mum is the best, she is the first one to buy me b'day gifts. Hearing that, Albert decided to prove his point, he gave me a gift as well, it's a hand held massager, especially for my neck and back.

Good i am happy =)


ALright, it doesn't work with photos

Birthday gift from Albert

Test e-mailing blog

This is the first time i tried this feature of blogger: emailing my blog .. let's see how it turns out

The fact that i only realise this feature after so many years of blogging is a classic reflection of my personality : i am not the type of "read-the-manual" first person, which menas i am a person who learns by hands-on experience, or rather the porsh term for it is "experential learning". Oh gosh.. i know much more than i realised ! :P

Which means, dear readers, you, yes you , have more strength than you realised. So, stop saying you are inadequate

I am writing this to remind myself really. I feel very inaedquate to serve the teens group 11-16 years in our church. I received an e-mail from a sister( a mum herself) in church that one of our teens wrote to her for advice, on choosing subjects for their A levels or something. She is not the teacher for 11-16 years, but for 8-10.

I felt inadequate because of

  • Culture gap between me, a malaysian born and breed and British born youth
  • Generation gap: main reason is because i am not a mum, and also following that, has no idea of the education system here in UK
  • i have no idea how to plan the material for them for the year 200607, as i have been given the responsibility of the main co-ordinator for this group

Thank God, there is always hope, God doesn't abandon us and He never fails to encourage me with WHo he is, the Loving God and with His words. Adrian, forwarded the following words by John Fischer

The Angel Stadium Declaration: April 17, 2005
by John Fischer

Today I am stepping across the line.

I’m tired of waffling and I’m finished with wavering;
I’ve made my choice, the verdict is in and my decision is irrevocable.
I’m going God’s way. There’s no turning back now!

I will live the rest of my life serving God’s purposes with God’s people on God’s planet for God’s glory.

I will use my life to:

    ·       celebrate His presence,
    ·       cultivate His character,
    ·       participate in His family,
    ·       demonstrate His love, and
    ·       communicate His word.

Since my past has been forgiven and
I have a purpose for living and a home awaiting in heaven,
I refuse to waste any more time or energy on:

    ·       shallow living,
    ·       petty thinking,
    ·       trivial talking,
    ·       thoughtless doing,
    ·       useless regretting,
    ·       hurtful resenting, or
    ·       faithless worrying.

Instead, I will:

    ·       magnify God,
    ·       grow to maturity,
    ·       serve in ministry, and
    ·       fulfil my mission in the membership of His family.

Because this life is preparation for the next, I will value

    ·       worship over wealth,
    ·       “we” over “me”,
    ·       character over comfort,
    ·       service over status, and
    ·       people over possessions, position, and pleasures.

I know what matters most and I’ll give it all I’ve got.
I’ll do the best I can with what I have for Jesus Christ today.

I won’t be:

    ·       captivated by culture,
    ·       manipulated by critics,
    ·       motivated by praise,
    ·       frustrated by problems,
    ·       debilitated by temptation or
    ·       intimidated by the devil.

I’ll keep running my race with my eyes on the goal, not the sidelines or those running by me.

When times get tough, and I get tired, I won‘t:

    ·       back up,
    ·       back off,
    ·       back down,
    ·       back out or
    ·       backslide.

I’ll just keep moving forward by God’s grace.

I’m Spirit-led, purpose-driven and mission-focused so I cannot be bought, I will not be compromised, and I shall not quit until I finish the race.

I’m a trophy of God’s amazing grace so I will be:

    ·       gracious to everyone,
    ·       grateful for every day, and
    ·       generous with everything that God entrusts to me.

To my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ,
I say: However, Whenever, Wherever, and Whatever you ask me to do,
my answer in advance is yes!

Wherever you lead and whatever the cost, I’m ready.
Anytime. Anywhere. Anyway.

Whatever it takes Lord; Whatever it takes! I want to be used by you in such a way, that on that final day I’ll hear you say,

“Well done, thou good and faithful one. Come on in, and let the eternal party begin!”

Thursday, 21 December 2006

is that you?

我是那么可笑, 我是那么幼稚
我是那么自私, 我是那么骄傲
我是那么高傲, 我是那么迷失

你。。不可说我没用, 你。。不可说我笨
因我比你聪明, 能干。。
虽然我口没说, 我心里却说了。。。
难道我没说出口 就不骄傲了??


如果不, 那你还没找到自己。。。。。


-巧琳@ iriny

Merry Christmas All

I'm sorry, but i have to post this animated gif. I laughed in the office when i saw this...

sorry adrian, have to grab this from your site

My Henna Experience

I only heard of henna when i came to this country, from my indian colleagues.They used it for body art or on the hair for dye.

I bought two boxes online , about £12 including postage, neutral colour as i have coloured my hair with Albert's help earlier. I kind of regret it because it's full of ammonia. This henna hair dye is natural and doesn't contatin ammonia.

Anyway, i bought neutral because i wanted some nourishment for my hair, for that shiny look. So yesterday, i mixed milk with the henna powder, colour as shown.

If you have a bit more imagination like Albert, you will say it looks something very "organic". The experience wasn't too bad, it smells very herbal.

So i came to work this morning, expecting my colleagues to see a difference. Unfortunately not. It doesn't look shinier. Maybe because i bought neutral colour.Or maybe i didn't apply to the roots as i did it on my own. Lots of maybes.

But i still trust this product. I will choose to trust that my hair was nourished eventhough it doesn't look like it from the outside.

Typical shallow woman i am ! ha !

My plans for Christmas/Birthday

Our church , from the young to the old, went to chinatown to give out tracks and told ppl about Jesus.. the balloon was a gimmick. It worked!
More photos :

Just in case you are wondering .. my birthday falls on 23rd of December. I have mixed feelings for the birthday falling near Christmas. In primary and secondary schools in KL, it has always been holidays. Therefore, I never get the chance to celebrate with my schoolmates. Back in university days, they went on Christmas holidays either in Europe or flew back to hometown. Again, it was especially lonely for me on my birthday.

Furthermore, with my birthday, cum Christmas, I received 2-in one card or sometimes 3-1 card: Happy birthday, Merry Christmas and Happy new year. Most of my friends received birthday presents and Christmas presents, while I , only received one- a 2-1 in present. In my teens, I was very disappointed, not many presents, not many friends. Sometimes disappointed because they sent me a Christmas card, and forgot about my birthday completely.

Mixed feelings, because I somehow quite like my birthday, being near to Christmas , and of course, 23 is a good number, don’t you think? I always feel proud telling people about my birthday, because I know what follows : “ Ohh, 2 days before Christmas huh” *Grin*

Now that I am a young adult, I don’t get bothered by these things, as my priority has changed with my experience of the world around me. This year, will be a rest day for me, morning and dinner with Albert.

休息, 因有更长的路要走
Rest because you have a longer road to travel ahead of you, my sister-in-law once said. I liked it and I saved in my database.

I am resting, because on 24th, 25, and 26th, Fifteen people are coming to stay over at our house. Yes five, they are the brothers and sisters from the mandarin speaking group, ie from mainland china and taiwan. They were looking for a place, for stayover and bonding, but couldn't find any. So, Albert and I have offered our house for them. Will tell you all about it next week.

That's my plan for Christmas.. of course, i would like to tell you that the BEST gift that My mum ever gives me, is JESUS. My life is a meaningless without Jesus.

Encountering with Jesus show me my destiny, where i come from , and where i am going, and

i am the OBJECT of an ETERNAL LOVE.

My Photo Dilemma

Photo taken on a ward, when i first bought the camera

I double checked on the spelling on dilemma.. and it’s correct. As with problems in life.. the first step is to be able to spell out the problem. Well. Iriny and her philosophy.

I have thousands and thousands of photos, since the digital age. I bought my first ever camera, Sony DSCV-1 in 2003. Back then, a camera with 5 megapixel with the features in my camera was quite a porsh one, But now, it’s probably an antique.

My dilemma is; I don’t know what to do with all those photos. Since the termination of my own laptop in 2001, again, now an antique, I have burned all those photos into CD. Now with all those CDs, I don’t know what to do with them. My professional photographer brother asked me to print it out, if not, it defeats the purpose of photos. I agree with him. The problem is finding the time to select photos that’s worth printing out. Eventhough printing without filtering will definitely save lots of time, but that will mean spending a lot of ££.

That is only problem number 1. The second problem is on uploading photos on one site only. I am currently using imagestation because it allows unlimited storage. I don’t mind flickr, which what everyone uses, but there is a limit every month. To be honest, I am quite reluctant to pay for those tiny bit of extra privilege.

Should I spend money or should I spend my time filtering photos?
In terms of value: money could be earned, but once time is gone, it’s gone. You can’t retrieve it, you can only spell is as m-e-m-o-r-y or in this day and age a-r-c-h-I-v-e-.
Being greedy, I would like to upload all photos, and print selected ones, and then flip through the album when I am sitting on a rocking chair, with white hairs ( or none, depends on my biological system), telling stories to my grandchildren ( or none, again, depending on my reproductive sytem). :p

Wednesday, 20 December 2006

Tutor's Report

Imagine having lived all your life knowing that you are not smart, not a genius, there’s always lots of people smarter than you in your class. Then, 20 odd years later, someone discovered your potential.


Imagine a rock that you found from the ground .. and one day you realised that it's not any ordinary rock.. it's a diamond!

Remember I mentioned that I had an exam on my first term as a beginner in Korean language at SOAS in London. I received tutor;s report yesterday. This was what my tutor wrote :

Progress made:

She now not just can read Hangul but also describe the basic sentences, numbers, location of a person or things.

Irene is one of the best students at class. She is a talented linguist and a fast learner(*grin). She has a good understanding of the language, grammar and a good memory of vocabulary. She has balanced 4 skills-good speaking, listening, reading and writing skills and good pronunciation. …Scored 97.5% in the end of term exam (AAHHHH) , which is an excellent result.

I am so happy !!! This is the second encouragement I heard from different people for two consecutive days. The day before, Chris, my pazz piano teacher said that I have progressed a lot and I am a fast learner. He told me that he didn’t say it because it’s nice to say it, he really means it. I have promised him that I will work harder and practice more, that’s my new year resolution. ( At the moment, I only practiced one hour per week.., how lazy I am ! )

I am very happy. Yeah yeah…

My vision applies to myself as well.. i hope to help people discover their potential and encourage them in pursuing their strength. Encouragement is lacking nowadays. I am a strong believer of encouragement and positive reinforcement.

pls:My vikipedia- my friend, pastor V is leaving for Penang for good .. I will miss him, one less friend to play with me..

Thursday, 14 December 2006

Yan hui's 求同存异

My friend Yan hui wrote an entry on Why am i here... worth a read..

an excerpt from her article as below:

Over the past few years, I realized that people are sooooooooooo different although most of us have Chinese looks, can speak one type of dialects of Chinese, can use chopsticks (this requirement should be removed as chopsticks are becomming international utensils), eat rice and use soy sauce....... (Want more? There are 88 ways to know if you're Chinese)

Sooooooooo, Why am I here? In a Chinese fellowship. Hey, Why are you here

Tell me that we come to see Christ, who is the maker of all Chinese, HKnese, Taiwanese, BBCnese.... Tell me that we come to be with Christians, to expose ourselves to a family of Christ which never splits according to hometown, mothertoughue,races, dresses, school textbooks.... Tell me that we are attracted by love of God, which is so shinning that our spiritual siblings' faces have become the same glorious. Tell me that we come because we're filled with love, and we share with whoever needs love, although our neighbours are not next door but one street next to u

求同存异 is one of the most famous Chinese political strategies. Literately, it means 'Seek the common, Keep the difference.' Therefore, we shall seek Christ and keep our differences.

'我们被别他性和奇异性之间不可逾越的鸿沟所隔离, 我们利用自然的联系,感情或精神上的联系是难以填平这鸿沟的.人和人之间没有办法沟通,不管我们如何努力表示爱和同情,不管我们的心理多么健全,也不管我们多么坦诚和开放,我们都无法看透别人的隐情,因为我们甚至在灵魂之间同他们也没有直接的关系.基督站在我们中间,我们只有通过他和邻居保持联系.正因为如此,代替祷告是和邻居沟通的最理想的方式,而以基督的名义进行集体祈祷,则是最纯洁的交往方式.'---------The Cost of Discipleship Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Tuesday, 12 December 2006


"Don't take my tears away. They are part of my journey to healing"-
By brother Soo Inn in Who is waiting at the airport

Just in case you get worried about me, I am completely fine. I read this entry and find this line meaningful.

Dedicated to a friend of mine whom i have in mind who need this reminder:

Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the Serenity
to accept the things I can not change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference.

Friday, 8 December 2006

Some solution to my neck

creativity by Iriny

Albert is so sweet. He went to Costco yesterday ( something like Makro in Malaysia) and he bought me few gifts: a pair of maroon coloured leather, 100% lambskin glove and this Thermofit Pillow. I slept on it last night and my neck is so much better!

Thermofit® stands for comfort made to measure. A characteristic of this pillow is the use of very comfortable thermo-reactive foam. This foam, originally developed for the aerospace industry and later also used in hospitals, reacts to body warmth.This causes it to mould itself to the exact contours of the body and to relieve pressure points. It supports the body in a healthy and comfortable way and causes a sensation of weightlessness. The pillow has a removable and machine washable cover, which are hypoallergenic and made of top quality materials, to quarantee optimal comfort and durability.”

Snapshot of my conversation with my GP

This is again, plain story-telling.

Irene: “ I would like to ask you about the previous result from my previous investigation as I didn’t receive the result in writing”
GP: “ From the investigation, it shows that you have condition X”
Irene: “ Is there any evidence to show that condition X will cause Y?”
GP: “ Tell me something, are you a nurse? Or a doctor?
Irene: “ I am a pharmacist, who work for Primary Care Trust( meaning I keep an eye on GP)

The buzz word is “evidence”. I have been trained and my job is to ensure the medication that health care professionals prescribe is evidence-based. No point prescribing something that doesn’t work and cost NHS money.

He then felt the lump on my neck and then he said :
“ Your neck is tender but I don’t think it’s anything serious. I can give you a form for X-ray but I don’t think giving you an X-ray will show anything, it will just expose you to more radiation. Looks like a swollen gland on your. A course of antibiotics and the swollen gland will go away.( to be honest, I don’t think it’s swollen gland, i confirmed this by asking my colleague GP in my office). I can give you some tablets to relax your muscle on your neck “

“ Oh by the way, you have longer neck than average. Maybe that explains your higher risk of neckache in addition to your posture at work. People with long neck are good dancers. “

That’s new. I have lived all my years on earth and no one ever told me my neck is longer than others. *A sense of excitement over this new discovery.* and the possibility of becoming a professional dancer? Ha ! dream on.. I might really break my neck then.

Irene: “ Are you going to give me diazepam ( the name of a drug whom I know works as muscle relaxant)? “
GP: “ No, Diazepam works only for sciatica I am giving you Methocarbamol

Actually, you don’t need a prescription from me, you can just ask your pharmacist friends to order it straight away from you. ( Oh really? I didn’t know that (*Duh*) I wasn’t expecting that from him )

Irene: “ It’s illegal… *smile* .”

I have never heard of that drug, so I just nod and smile. I came home and look for my drug dictionary, BNF and found that it’s an old old drug, that will explains why my GP prescribed that. Doctors nowadays seldom use it anymore AND it’s documented that the clinical efficacy is not well established.

In the end, I decided not to pay £6.65 for something that has questionable efficacy. I just find my encounter with my Gp very interesting.

A) He help me discover that I have a long neck
B) I have the potential to become a good dancer ( if only I knew it 10 years ago) C) Imagine being prescribed a drug where there is no evidence that it actually works.

On my way home, I was in the tube busy observing other people’s neck. I later asked my husband about the length of my neck. He too was surprise to discover that my neck is actually long. He called me a giraffe because I have lots of top with strips.In fact, as i am writing this blog, i am wearing a black and white strip v-neck top.

Thursday, 7 December 2006

Feet –3

Please not there is no negative feelings or resentment or any notion of complaints naturein in this entry. It's purely story telling.

There are 3 floors in our house. The kitchen is in the ground floor. The living room, study and bedrooms are on first and second floor.

Firstly, when one walk in from the door, one has to take off one’s shoe, and wear the slippers. However, those slippers should only remain on the ground floor , corridor area only and can’t wear it into the kitchen, as it is dirtier than the floors above.

Secondly, one has to change to another pair of slipper when one is in the kitchen. Reason being, the kitchen floor is obviously dirty and greasy. The slipper in the kitchen stay in the kitchen and no where else. If one wears the same pair of slipper and walk around the whole house, the carpet will be full of dirt and grease from the kitchen.

Thirdly, when one decided to go upstairs after their trip to kitchen, one has to change into another pair of slipper for the use of the second and third floors only.

To summarise: one wears the first pair of shoe upon entering the house, then the second pair when one goes to the kitchen for meals or drink, and the third, when one goes to the living room/study/bedroom.

I agree with all these and I can clearly see the rationale for it. All the floors are carpeted, the last thing you want is to spend £££ just to change those dirty carpets.
(notice the three pound sign, meaning not cheap)

However, firstly, I am a very forgetful person myself. Secondly, I grew up in KL, where I never have to wear slipper all my life. Thirdly, now, I not only have to wear slippers, I also have to change from one to another. I tend to mix them up and wear the wrong slippers.

Albert has been very patient with me. Hence, he has decided to make it clear that green coloured slippers only for ground floor, blue ones are for the kitchen only, and yellow ones are for the floors above.

Easy to follow? Well yes, only after months of training, for a slow learner like me anyway. Ha ha I am better now, compared to few months ago. Practice makes perfect. and making mistakes definitely help! Ha ha .

In the interim, changes take time. I need time to learn, to make it a habit while he needs time to be patient with the “interim” learner here.

Don’t get me wrong, my husband is a very loving man. He goes all out to treat me and pamper me. He made a lot of sacrifices on his part to accommodate me. If you ever met him, you will have no doubt on his integrity and kindness.

Like I said, I am in the knowing phase. Don’t pity me, I like challenges! One thing for sure, I will probably laugh at this entry at some point in the future too.

On Drying Feet –2

Like I kept on hammering on this embedded values behind one’s interpretation of text, two people can read the same text and end up with contrasting conclusion.
My friend, after reading my story on drying my feet came to a conclusion that anything can become an argument in marriage. Having said that, her second line is the essence.

Like there are two sides of a coin, I would like to suggest two possible interpretation with the same story. One would be the interpretation of my friend, from the first statement. The other, especially for couples who have gone through the motion of getting to know each other and adjusting to each other phase, will probably laugh at my entry. They laugh because they were there before, and on hindsight, it was a good thing that they went through it.

For example, if you haven’t exercised for a long time and have started doing it. On the first day, you will probably end up with muscle ache. Your posterior may even hurt when you sit down! However, you know that the temporal hurt is an indication of 1) you are alive,
2) your muscles are working ,
3) they are being stretched to prepare themselves for bigger task ahead

Hence, you will be relieved that your muscles are aching, knowing that they are achieving good in you.

Coming back to my friend’s comment on anything in a marriage can start an argument. My response will be yes and no. Yes anything in a marriage can start an argument, which could be a bad thing to some. Who you are determine how you interpret the text and how you come to know something.For some who are marriage-phobic, they may see it as another reason for them not to marry. No, from my point of view, it’s an exercise to show love, just like stretching your muscles.

I see these as stepping stones in getting to know each other more, to identify the differences, which are not wrong in itself, and use LOVE to bridge the gap. Yes, it can end up with argument and hatred when there is no LOVE.

Where there is no love, all is left is duty and responsibility.

Just like how we used to hate the subject in exams,we just studied to pass, to fulfill our duty.

On the other hand, these can be opportunities to practice our love, to love someone who disagree with us, who is different from us. My friend, too has rightly pointed it out. What is the point of loving someone who thinks the way you do ? It will just be loving yourself by the end of the day. Doesn’t take much to love yourself, does it? Since loving ourselves is our natural reflexes.

If every parents just see raising kids as changing pampers, waking up in the middle of the night to feed them, spending all their fortune for their kids, there will be no new birth, no me, no you. Fortunately, that is just one part of the story. There is tremendous joy and satisfaction in raising a child (according to all parents I know) and they never regretted having one. There are sacrifices to be made but there are satisfaction that can’t be measured with monetary terms as well.

The truth is, life is a mosaic of pain and healing, laughter and tears. Both of them co-exist. We can prevent as much pain as possible, (which is our reflex) but it does not guarantee that we will live a pain-free life and not get hurt at all. But one thing for sure, there will be no healing and no joy. Don’t get me wrong, doesn’t mean that we injure ourselves intentionally so that we can have healing. What I am getting at is that pain is inevitable in this fallen world, but, as a christian who put my trust in Christ, there is hope, healing, satisfaction,redemption, joy, and of course, character building in Christ( and in the process of all those sacrifices and pain).

Stepping stone or stumbling block, the choice is yours. Don’t forget, resurrection only happens after death.

James 1: 2-8 “2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; 8he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does

“Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies;”- John 11:25

Wednesday, 6 December 2006

On drying your feet

Do you use your towel to dry your feet after shower?

Having lived all my past 20 years in KL, with no carpet in my room, i don't dry my feet specifically after shower. I dried my feet when i stepped on the mat outside the bathroom.

With this context, my husband asked me not to step on the bathroom mat to dry my feet because that bathroom mat is dirty and i will then bring those micro-organism from the mat , along with me to the whole house. Plus i will wet the carpet, which in the longer term, may spoil the carpet and then have to spend £££ to change the carpet. Hence, it was suggested to me that i dry my feet using a separate towel and am reminded to resume wearing slipper (assuming that i will remember to wear them in the first place)after my shower.

I then asked my husband, the slipper would have been worn into the bathroom, and therefore would carry those micro-organism along with me to the whole house as well, like my feet. I was then told that it's different with slipper as the sole of the slipper is different from my feet. They are less likely to carry dirt due to the plastic nature of the sole, and the slippers are being washed from time to time ( Irene : So are my feet ... )

Anyway, there you go, a little story of mine as a married woman.

Monday, 4 December 2006

What is marriage

At this stage, being married for six months( ONLY), marriage to me is about loving ( and of course accepting) someone who is totally different from me.

In my opinion, when two people live together,( not only couple, housemates as well! ) there will be a stage where conflict happen due to plain differences of lifestyle, preference. You will understand what I mean if you had housemates/flatmetes. Any two human being ( including twins) from the same family, same parents will end up having different personalities and preferences. Even more so when you talk about two beings from different culture, different family background come together.

Having said that, this stage will be temporal. After two beings got to know the ins and outs, the preference and lifestyle differences, they will learn to accept it and each will have influence on the other. For example, I insist that hot (temperate) food should not be transferred to plastic container and kept in the fridge straight away, but instead should be cooled down. Initially, albert had a different perspective. Being trained as a pharmacist, where medicine preparation has to be sterile ( free from contaminants), he thinks that hot food should be stored in container, completely sealed, while it is still hot and kept in the fridge. That will ensure it’s sterile. Both of us, are right. I have been taught since young from my mum that plastic container, no matter how heat resistant they are, interact with hot food and is not good, plus storing hot food in the fridge will increase the overall temperature of the fridge. On first few occasion, albert insisted that I should follow him. So I did. I then googled and read around the topic and sent him the articles. Now, we compromise. We will let the cool down and then only transfer to the container and the fridge. Anyway, when we reheat the food thoroughly before eating, there will not be any problem.

Beneath the difference in opinion, there was a deeper underlying value system which I was not aware. Until the time when we had our post-marriage counselling with our pastor. He said that when he first came to London on his own, he was afraid of being sick because there was no one to take care of him and being ill on his own was his worst fear. Following that, he is very particular with the cleanliness of the food, since we ingest it and affects our body. As for me, being brought up in a blessed family, I never had the insecurity and I also had housemates with me. I never lived alone.

Hence, all the more, I believe that getting to know the underlying values a person whole is crucial in helping us to accept and love the being the way they are. This is due to the intricate relationship of a person background, growing up experiences, perception of the world, their communication skills, their problem solving method are deeply interwoven. I have realised that to actually identify one's underlying deeply embedded values system takes time.

It’s about knowing : knowing your creator-God, and through him, and the world around you, to know yourself, and then to know others. As the word know-ing is present continuous tense, it’s an ongoing process.
Well, those are my 2 cents.

p/s: I am still in the knowing phase
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